Thursday, July 01, 2010

the real reason why I haven't wanted to blog

Today I found this article (Atlantic Monthly, 1961). I don't really know what to say other than it is spot-on.

What do you think?

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

That is a very good article. Have you ever read any of Eckhart Tolle's books? One is called "The Power of Now" and the other is called "A New Earth - Awakening to Your Life's Purpose". Love, Aunt Pam

aLi said...

There were so many things it said that I couldn't agree with more. It was also validating!!! That's the best- to be validated when you're struggling with something that you've seen so many other women do (and they make it seem so easy). I feel smarter for reading it, too. With words like "jounce." :) haha. Thank you Rachael.

Me said...

Wow. That really did capture perfectly a lot of what it is to be a mom and wife.

Right now, I particularly get the loneliness issue. Especially since my neighbors speak German and the church members all live far away.
I could go on, but anyhow.

Me said...

Okay, actually I will say a bit more. This reminds me of just the other day I had talked to my older sister who is divorced and has a new guy she's interested in. She was sooo excited and thrilled and in like wth him.
Afterwards, I was talking to my other sister and we were saying how it almost makes you feel jealous to hear all the excited, highly-charged feelings from someone when you've been married for ages and there just isn't that kind of powerful- what the article termed 'mysterious,' feeling anymore. So you listen to her go on for awhile, and then you turn around and look at your own life, and you have to give a bit of a sigh.
And in your brain, you do know that you have wonderful, intimate, love, and that you are so glad that you don't have to face the possibility of it not working out, (and in the case of my sister, you're grateful that you never had to go through all the years of horrific marriage that she did), but ALL THE SAME, you just feel like your life is a little ho-hum.

Agree?

Meghan said...

There are days when this is "spot-on." There are many other days when it just misses the joy that comes from seemingly mundane tasks, and the sense of higher purpose that infuses those mundane tasks with meaning.

Rachel Mae said...

I enjoyed this read. My favorite sentence was this. I was laughing really hard: "It is the simple, nerve-wracking, mindless, battering-ram process of trying to teach a savage to use a fork."

Sometimes "savage" is exactly the thing to call a little kid . . .

Rachael said...

Ali--I also found it really validating. Yesterday was the kind of day where by the end of the day I just didn't have the energy to put in the effort anymore, you know? And so I went on a bike ride after Neil got home--to a messy house, unfolded laundry, and no dinner--to get some alone time and it made such a HUGE difference.

Kayli--I know exactly what you're talking about. So glad I'm not in the dating morass, but a little wistful for that euphoria. And the loneliness thing--even though I'm surrounded by lots of wonderful women, I feel more isolated in the last couple of years because I've been at home so much more with each additional child.

Rachel, the line about savages went though my head this morning at breakfast. So very, very true. And I liked the part about the sheer determination and force of will that mothering requires.

And Mom, you're right too. :-)

Neil said...

Now I know I'm an outsider in this discussion, and my opinion is only the opinion of a man. But I thought that it was accurate, as far as I have seen. Rachael always comes back from taking an hour or two by herself with more resolve and more patience.

Jen said...

Not a mom (yet) but I love this piece. From my own observations--and even experience in marriage without children--it's spot on. I'm already having to learn to let go of the guilt and accept truths I wish weren't. Thanks for sharing.

Jolena said...

I'm right there with you on the irony that we were roommates at the time of our lives that we appreciated it the least. How ironic! Who knows, maybe someday we'll end up near each other again and we can be running buddies or have play groups or whatever. In the meantime, we'll just comment on each other's blogs and add a little meaning to each other's life by cheering each other on via blogging. :)

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