Tuesday, January 04, 2011
an anniversary post of sorts that didn't start out that way
Last night as soon as the children were in bed, I started working on my course website for this semester. It was a long night and I didn't get to bed until 2 am. Midway through my fun night with HTML, I checked my email and saw this picture from Neil, who had been working on his laptop in our room and had gone to bed, but not without sending me a cheery little pick-me-up.
Today while I was driving Abigail to school, I was listening to an interview on NPR with a man who has just started a divorce insurance company. He quoted several statistics on the likelihood of divorce in first, second, and third marriages, then noted that the average person loses 77% of their net worth in a divorce (which seemed a little high to me, but anyway).
We've had a lot of people close to us go through divorce lately. I was thinking about this recently, since Neil and I celebrated our eighth anniversary over the holidays. I wouldn't say that we are always in perfect agreement on everything, nor are either of us perfect people. But I am grateful for the give-and-take that we have in our marriage; for the ability of one person to give a little extra when the other is in need (like the way Neil let me sleep in this morning and then presented me with freshly-baked coffee cake when I finally stumbled out of bed). I am grateful for the way that each of us has learned when to step back to allow the other person to learn and grow, and when to push and encourage. Mostly, I am grateful for something Neil's mission president told him almost a decade ago: "unity is more important than who is right." And I am very grateful for my husband, and for his parents, who raised an incredible man.
When I sat down to blog today, I didn't really mean to write this post (I was actually going to write about the kiddos), but I've just been thinking a lot lately about how grateful I am for my husband and for our relationship, and all that he does to help our family be stronger. I was trying to think of a good way to sum it all up, and all I can say is that I am so happy every day because he is in my life.
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Ahh . . . Shucks . . .
Neil is awesome. You know how Rosalind is always asking who is my favorite?
Oh! I love that quote....unity is more important than who is right!
I think I might quilt that...
would you mind??
It took me a while to figure out how to write that on my forehead while looking in a mirror.
Oh wow, that is so so sweet. I love that quote, I really need to remember that. Happy 8 years to you both!
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