Monday, September 01, 2008

comments PLEASE


I am out-and-out soliciting comments.

You see, I've been wanting to cut my hair really short for years. Why? It takes me about an hour to "do," and I just don't have that kind of time as a mom. Usually it ends up bundled out of the way in a French braid or the like, which drives me nuts because I'd like to look a little more pulled together and I don't feel very attractive when my hair is just tied up and obviously didn't get much attention that day.

I feel like my hair is too long and doesn't have anything particularly exciting about it to justify the length. On the other hand, Neil adores it long, and people are always saying, "Oh, I wish I had hair like yours" (and I remember someone once yelling at me all the way across a quad at BYU and I asked how she recognized me from so far away, and she said, "Oh, I saw your hair").

Anyway, so please give me the benefit of your opinion, ESPECIALLY if you know me in real life. Should I chop it? (like, serious A-line bob chop) Will I regret it? Or will I feel marvelously free?

17 comments:

Nate and Nicole said...

You have such beautiful hair, but I say go for it! Well, here's the caveat, I would maybe not go for a bob (unless you're feeling particularly brave and daring), because they're just as much work since you have to do your hair everyday and don't have the option of pulling it back. Maybe something in between - like to your shoulders? That way you can do your hair when you have time (and it should take less than an hour), or you can pull it back. But, this is coming from someone that constantly grows my hair out only to chop it off and then start the whole process again :).

Sarah Harward said...

I say go for it too! You will be AMAZED at how much less time it takes to fix it, and how much less shampoo and conditioner you'll use. If you don't LOVE it, it will grow. I think guys like long hair by defult. Steven always says he likes long hair (and my hair has NEVER been as long as yours) yet he always loves my hair after I get it cut. Plus, it's SO fun to get a new hair style!! Marty's the woman to go to, so hurry and make that appointment before she has her baby!! Good luck!!

Kilerkki said...

I just got mine cut just above my shoulders, and it takes much less time to dry and style--though it still takes time to style, because I got it layered in such a fashion that I generally have to straighten it or it looks a bit funny. 30 minutes, though, instead of an hour. It's cute and fun and still has just enough length to look good. Plus, the layering helps thin it out, so it's not quite so thick and hard to dry.

You have gorgeous hair, but I think there's some call for function over beauty. Don't chop it off all the way, but taking off some length will help you and won't hurt Neil. (Much)

Kilerkki said...

Plus, I'm pretty sure you could do Locks of Love with what you cut off!

Elise Decker said...

no!!! as long as i can remember you have had beautiful, long, shiny hair and it would just be too weird! and you can do it curly more often, i think it's so pretty curly--if you do cut it, i think a bob is way too short--but i love it long!!!

Phil said...

Locks of Love sounds like a good suggestion, but you might want to read the caveats on the Wikipedia article before donating:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Locks_of_love

My 2 cents (coming from a male engineer here) is that efficiency is more important than looks. Few haircuts really look bad, but there is a huge variation in the amount of maintenance they require. Another consideration with shorter haircuts is that they may require more frequent cutting to maintain the look. So make an "efficiency quotient" by taking average time/cost of maintenance divided by "beauty" (whatever the heck that is) and pick the style that gives the lowest value.

Also, any change will take some getting used to; give yourself at least 2 weeks with a new style before you decide you hate it!

Laura Hanson said...

I say if you do chop, cut enough off to donate and let someone else have the benefit of your otherwise swept up and tossed in the trash can hair. Besides, you can always grow it out again, so really, its low risk with a potentially big pay off. And as a girl with almost always short hair, I rarely spend more than 15 mintues on my do (when I do style it) and it often looks great without do anything.

Katrina said...

Here is my opinion as someone who fairly recently made went from way long to short hair... Do it! I love long hair but it is a ton of work. And being a mom to small children is not the time to spent hours on one's hair. Also, this would be a perfect chance for you to donate it to Locks of Love or Pantene also has a great program you should look into. As for how short and what style. I think you need to take your hair texture into consideration. I have wavy hair, so I pretty much don't even blow dry mine and it's really nice. You probably want to make sure you have a cut that allows for easy styling--not all short hair is easy. As for Neil-- I bet he'll like it whatever you do. Jared has really liked my short hair. And of course it always grows back. It's nice to mix things up, especially after having long hair for so long. Go for it!

lanada said...

your hair grows fast. i say go for it.

sarah said...

Hair always grows back. Thats the beauty of it.

I totally second all the Locks of Love donation suggestions. You have gorgeous hair and it would be a waste not to have it grace the head of a little girl who doesn't have any.

Meghan said...

I think shoulder length is a good way to work your way into shorter hair. Having watched lots of girls get long hair cut much shorter, I'd say you get the advantages of a new cut that's easier to take care of, without giving up the ability to pull it back--or risking a bob you'll hate bc it takes more time to look good than a quick French Braid.

The Jones Family said...

It's fun to read what everyone else wrote.

I say go for it! Maybe not super short the first time around. (Especially since I think your hair is quite thick). I would just cut a bit off, see how you like, then cut some more off later if you want to.

I used to always have long hair as well but now love having short hair. I think it's faster and easier to style.

Either way your hair is beautiful and will still be beautiful whether it is long or short. If you decide short isn't for you - just grow it out :)

Good luck making this decision. It's always a tough one but I love change!

Malinda said...

Well, I know Neil would never forgive you if you cut it (at least he ALWAYS had something to say when I cut mine), but it's always nice to try something new. Last time I cut my hair, it took me about a month to decide that I didn't like it that way, and that I wanted to grow it back out. At least my hair grows quickly. I guess I'm saying that you should definitely do what YOU want to do (you're the one who has to wash and dry it every day). If you do chop it, you should donate it to Locks of Love. It's so fun to donate a foot without blinking an eye!

Neil said...

I must say, and I know I've said it a million times, that I adore your hair. But after thinking about it when I should be finishing up the first draft of my first publication I've come to the conclusion that I agree with your mother. I know you would look stunning with shoulder length hair, or even a bit shorter. But I think you might regret a bob, especially those weird angled bobs. Ever since we read the short story and watched the film "Bernice Bobs Her Hair" in 7th grade english, I've always thought it was a silly looking style-- much too '20s.

But then again, it will grow back. I'm sure you'll be a fox however you do it.

I love you.

Kritta22 said...

I suggest you go for a long layered look first. Then after you get more and more comfortable with the length, cut a layer off. If you tell your stylist that's the plan, she will probably only charge u once or just a mininum amount when you come back if time.
Good luck chica! I'm cutting my hair too!

rachel said...

I say go for it. I've been having the same impulse. I just have no patience for doing my hair anymore. I'd rather spend the time elsewhere. But I too am getting sick of having it up.

joanna said...

Try something in between. Maybe not super-short (unless you want to.) Long hair is kind of a YOU thing. Try shoulder-length with some long layers. You still feel like you have long hair but it takes less time to dry. You can flip it out or under. You can still put it up or leave it down without much fuss.

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